Have you ever stood gazing into the fridge, knowing you weren’t really hungry, but that something wasn’t quite right, you weren’t quite right? You didn’t really know what was wrong; you just had this uneasy feeling and food seemed like the best way to fix it.
But it doesn’t fix it for long! And before you know it, there you are, back again gazing into that fridge. After many repeated visits to the fridge over a period of time, you begin to put on some weight and then some more weight, until eventually you are officially ‘overweight’.
In our culture it is just not acceptable to be overweight. So called ‘fat’ people are seen as lazy and weak willed. The media is constantly selling us the idea that being slim and beautiful equates to success. (Not so in other cultures, in Jamaica big is beautiful, in fact the bigger the better!) Added to which the government is continually bombarding us with the message that being overweight is bad for our health.
So the only thing for it is to go on a diet.
Just how many times have you tried to lose weight? How many different diets have you tried? How long were you able to keep the weight off for? Every time you put the weight back on again, you blame yourself. Just like they say, you’re lazy, weak willed and a failure. Your self esteem begins to suffer. Maybe you just give up or perhaps you decide it’s time to try another diet! And the vicious cycle continues.
It never even occurs to you to think that maybe dieting isn’t the answer. ‘Eat less, exercise more’ is the mantra of the day, the only solution we are offered (apart from the more drastic options of pills that can sometimes have ghastly side effects or surgery that on occasion can be life threatening).
Diets alone simply don’t work for many people because it’s not the food that is the problem – it’s that uneasy feeling. We’re trying to tranquilise that underlying unease in the only way we know how – by eating.
But just what makes it so difficult for us to lose that weight? The answer lies in the discovery that people with weight issues are what is termed as psychologically reversed 95% of the time with regard to their issue of weight loss. Being psychologically reversed just means that, for whatever reason, there is a part of you that is not on board with the idea of losing weight. And that part of you will sabotage all your attempts to lose weight!
Psychological reversal can be very simply measured using kinesiology or muscle testing. How does muscle testing work? Whenever you say or think something that resonates as true with the subconscious mind, the electrical and magnetic fields around the body actually become stronger and as a result the muscles also become stronger. Similarly, when you say or think something that resonates as false with the subconscious mind, the electrical and magnetic fields around the body actually become weaker and as a result the muscles also become weaker! See http://www.formulaformiracles.net/muscle-testing.html for more information). The famous Lie Detector Test is based on similar principles. Anyone having difficulty losing weight will invariably test weak for ‘I want to lose weight’ and strong for ‘I want to gain weight’. This simply means that while consciously you really, really want to lose weight, your subconscious has another agenda altogether. Subconsciously you really don’t want to lose that weight!
So what is it that causes us to be psychologically reversed? Author, kinesiologist and chiropractor Dr James Durlacher identifies several primary themes: negativity, lack of self worth, issues around safety, fear and secondary benefits.
For example, someone who has tried to slim unsuccessfully many times may believe that they will never be able to lose weight (negativity). Another person may believe subconsciously that they don’t deserve to be slim and beautiful (self worth). Someone else may have suffered a traumatic event in the past, it could just have been a perceived threat that they were unable to process at the time, and which they subconsciously associate with being slim (it’s not safe for me to lose weight). Or they may believe that losing weight will in some way adversely affect a loved one – for example they think it may arouse jealousy in a sibling or damage their self esteem (it’s not safe for others). It may be that they just love eating and are not prepared to sacrifice their enjoyment (secondary benefit). Or if someone has been overweight all their life subconsciously they may be afraid to lose weight because they wouldn’t know who they were (fear).
And unfortunately, the problem with psychological reversal is that it isn’t logical, it’s emotional; identifying and understanding it, doesn’t automatically resolve it.
So, being overweight really isn’t your fault! It’s just a case of psychological reversal.
So isn’t it about time you stopped blaming yourself!
But if diets don’t address the emotional issues behind your overeating and it isn’t your fault, do you just have to resign yourself to being overweight?
The answer is a resounding ‘NO’; there is another way. Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is based on the discovery that ‘ALL negative emotions are caused by a disruption in our body's energy system’ andcombines the very best of east and west - the latest research in energy psychology with the ancient wisdomoftraditionalChinese medicine.
EFT is recommended by many internationally acclaimed doctors and leading edge scientists, like Deepak Chopra and Bruce Lipton, for its speed and effectiveness; it often works where nothing else will.
EFT addresses the underlying cause of your weight problem. The reason you keep going back to that fridge! It restores harmony and balance to your energy system, effectively eliminating those feelings of anxiety and unease.
A skilled EFT therapist will help you uncover and eradicate whatever is causing psychological reversal in your case, so that every part of you is on board. With every part of you on board, you can be sure of success.
You effectively lose weight from the inside out. First you eliminate pounds of negative emotions like anxiety, guilt, shame, anger, then you can just sit back and watch as your body changes to match your new inside, and you shed the physical pounds, with no conscious effort on your part!
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