I love affirmations, don’t you?


Positive affirmations are the language of self-talk designed to reprogram your subconscious and boost your vibrational frequency. It might seem strange to do. However, think about the fact that you probably currently use negative self-talk all the time without noticing.

What about – I hate my arms or I’ve had a gutsful.

Imagine if after saying that you have had a gutsful, your tummy starts to swell. Well, that’s your unconscious mind obeying your order or negative affirmation. That’s how easy it is.


How many times have you done something and called yourself stupid or looked in the mirror and allowed negative thoughts coming to mind? I know when my spine fractured I found it oh so hard to say anything nice to myself.


Negative self-talk affects your confidence, lowers your vibration, and places the focus of your life on the wrong things.


To change yourself, you can use positive affirmations about any issue you want to change. Using the fracture as an example I started to say I am healed, healthy and happy and my bones are healthy and healed. What a difference that made. Naturally, I did more than just chant affirmations, but these played a powerful part in my healing.


To use positive affirmations to help you bring about change I have these tips.

Identify Negative Self-Talk Habits

When you start to write what it is that you want, notice what comes up. Before you start using positive affirmations, be more mindful about when and how you’re using negative self-talk. Note these in your journal, very soon you will start to see a pattern which you can then choose to consciously change.

Create Positive Affirmations from Negative Self-Talk

After you write down those negative things, you might see that there are some that fall into like categories. Note what these categories are and perhaps you can choose a priority and notice what happens when you focus on changing these.

For example, if when you are getting ready in the morning, you see yourself in the mirror and say something not so great to yourself – you’ll know that it is in the category of self-esteem. Likewise, when you have those doh moments, these too could fall into the same category, especially if you catch yourself using not so useful, unkind language.

You can then create positive affirmations that will raise your self-esteem. “I’m grateful to my body, for everything she does and helping me to be happy, healthy and healed.” Even if you have problems, when you do this, you’ll likely make better choices during the day, and will remember to treat yourself with loving-kindness.

When resistance comes up, it is because you need to take note. Write down what you notice about resistance in your journal and explore it and how you feel about it.

It works, I am proof.

Write Your Affirmations Down

Write down your positive affirmations. You could write your affirmations on small slips of paper and put them in a jar and grab one when you need it. Write them on pretty note cards or post-it notes and stick them where you can see them. For example, you can put one of your affirmations on the bathroom mirror, or on your door so you see it as you’re leaving.

When I was going through my big healing I would write love me notes on post-its and pop them on the fridge before bed. They worked a treat. I always forgot that I had written them and then smiled in delight in the morning.

Say Your Affirmations Aloud

When you are saying your affirmations in private, say them aloud. When you say them aloud, not only do you hear the vibration in your voice, you are sending this out to the Universe who is waiting to support you.

It’s a good job no one can see me when I am walking the dogs. Not only am I saying them aloud, but I also practise tapping on certain points.

Choose To Change

Saying positive affirmations is great, but you need to choose to make changes. Writing in your journal will open your mind to what is going on in your life and from there you can make conscious choices. Write down a goal that reflects what you want to change, make the goal SMART, break it down into smaller goals, pick the first one and go for it.


As you practice using positive affirmations you will change. Saying your affirmations combined with good action changes your perceptions and this is what we want to make a note of. When you reflect at the end of the week or month you can join the dots backwards and see how far you have grown and how your life has changed.

Questions for your journal

  • What is one thing that you want to change today?
  • What would your positive affirmation be?
  • What will you see when this has become a part of your life?
  • How will you feel when the changes occur?
  • What is your first step?

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Dale Darley, AKA The Word Alchemist. Dale is a prolific writer and journaler. She teaches others how to write to heal and then how to heal others through your writing. She has used writing to heal for understanding and healing the effects of childhood trauma, narcissistic relationships and illness. Writing has supported Dale in her journey to love herself and refind her wild