If you are still living with an abusive, narcissistic person and are having to self-isolate or you are on lockdown, being confined with them is going to be extremely challenging, and the chances are, if they haven’t already they will use this time to further their abuse and control over you. I want you to know that you are not alone and there are some things you can do to help manage your situation.
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Take breaks from watching, reading or listing to news stories, including social media. Hearing about the pandemic repeatedly can be upsetting.
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Try to eat healthy, well-balanced meals, exercise regularly, get plenty of sleep and avoid alcohol.
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Take care of your body and mind. Practice mindfulness. Take deep breaths, stretch or meditate.
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Connect virtually with others. Talk to people you trust about your concerns and how you are feeling.
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Make time for funny/cute videos, video games, art, writing or Netflix.
- Stuck at home = I will be safe (from virus) in my home and I get to spend time with my kids.
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I will get sick = I will self-isolate and wash my hands, this will significantly decrease my chances of getting sick.
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I will run out of items at home during self-isolation = I have prepared for this and I will use my items wisely. I have everything I need for now.
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Everything is shutting down, I’m panicking = The most important places, such as medical centers, pharmacies and food shops remain open.
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There is too much uncertainty right now = While I can’t control the situation around me, I can control my actions. Doing breathing exercises, calling loved ones, getting enough sleep and proper nutrition, prayer and doing activities you love at home will help during this time.
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If you are in the UK: Refuge or Women’s Aid. The police are still running a normal service, so if you need them, call them. If you are unable to speak when you call the police, you can press 55, this is called “Silent Solutions” find out more here.
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If you are in Spain: Adintre Foundation or Amusuvig, and The Junta de Andalucía offers a 24-hour helpline (900200999) that provides advice and assistance in English to victims of domestic abuse.
I am also available and I offer a free 15-minute discovery call, where we can chat, you can see a friendly face and receive some emotional support. If you want to book a video call with me, use this link.