Have You Chosen Your Attitude?

Having the inner wherewithal to choose your attitude at all times is a recipe for well-being. If you know that no matter what the circumstances, you will be capable of choosing an attitude that maintains your own inner well-being or balance, you know that nothing – but absolutely nothing – that comes your way will have the ability to throw you.
But most people can’t do this. The main reason is because very few people in our culture tell us about this way of living when we are growing up. And then, of course, once we have grown up, we are convinced that it is otherwise. In other words, that our attitude is determined by our circumstances. If things are gong well, we are happy. If they are not, we are most definitely not happy. And that’s it.
But there are those others, over the millennia, that have propagated another kind of thinking. Not everyone is aware of them, not everyone has paid attention to them, but they are out there and have been out there for those whose eyes are open since the beginning of time. Here is their message: being conscious and aware of yourself at all times, as well as accepting responsibility for yourself and your inner state at all times, allows you to choose your attitude in the face of any kind of situation at all. 
You’ll need to have a brief dialogue with yourself if you wish this to take root in your life. The brief dialogue needs to be held when a situation falls into your life that would normally render you unhappy, fearful, stressed, frustrated, angry, or impatient, judgmental, critical or self-aggrandizing. Add to that list any other descriptive that you care that lies on the negative side of the emotional continuum we are all subject to, and then realize that whether or not you go in that direction – will from now on depend entirely on you and not on your circumstances – if you practice being so. The dialogue might go like this:
  • such-and-such has happened
  • this normally makes me feel unhappy or have this __________________ attitude
  • but I have a choice about how I feel
  • do I wish to feel unhappy or have this ________________________ attitude about it?
  • no I don’t
  • so if I have a choice, what might be a better attitude or feeling to have?
  • I could choose to remain calm
  • I could choose to find a place of inner balance before I decide what to do
  • I could choose to look at this as a learning experience

There are many variations on this theme, but they all come down to one common denominator: it is up to you. It is your choice. And that is how simple it is. Obviously it requires practice – but then so do most things that are worthwhile attaining.

It was Victor Frankl who said: the last of the human freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances. And he said this after having survived Auschwitz …

For more about being aware of your choices prior to deciding on an attitude or feeling, and of making conscious choices that will enhance your life and promote greater inner peace and freedom, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).
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Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D., CHT

Author: Rewiring the Soul  (2011) & The Tao of Spiritual Partnership (2012)

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