If you are hanging pictures in your study, you will need to know how to measure a straight line, perhaps how to calculate symmetrical distances from one object to another in order to situate the picture at dead center, and you’ll have to know how to use a hammer. If you are painting your bedroom wall, you will need to know how to edge the corners, prep the walls, and you’ll also – obviously – need to know how to handle a roller brush and the smaller one for more delicate areas. And if you’re mowing the grass, you’ll need to know how to use the particular lawn mower you happen to have.
Logical. But each example refers to tools that you need to know how to handle in order to get the job done. Handling anger also requires tools. One of them can be patience. Patience in the face of what just happened or was just said, and patience in the face of your knee-jerk reactions to that. If I suggest that you make use of patience for your angry outbursts and patience is not a tool you are accustomed to using, then it makes just as little sense for you to try to do it, as it does for me to try to fix the broken plumbing in my bathroom. I simply have no experience in such issues, and no idea how to use the appropriate tools.
However, if you practice patience in other areas of your life that might just be a bit easier than in moments of anger, such as:
- being patient while waiting behind a very slow person in the bank, or at the supermarket check-out line
- being patient while being stalled in heavy rush-hour traffic
- being patient with a small child that is learning how to walk (that one’s easy … think about it! And apply those principles.)
- being patient with someone to whom you are teaching a skill that they are unfamiliar with: trigonometry, carpentry, graphic design, poetry. etc.
Clearly by developing the ability to be patient in areas of your life that do not provoke a knee-jerk reaction on your part, but rather, perhaps, merely impatience, will help you develop the muscle of patience for when you really need it, as in moments of anger. You’ll never know how well it works unless you try.
Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for my new book. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed.
For more about developing patience in your life and about becoming aware of the choices and attitudes you have at all times in order to transform your life, have a look at my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self (paperback or Kindle).
To download the first chapter, click here
Reviews From the Back Cover:
A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Universe
“The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful.” Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre
“The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe.” Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries
“Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I’ve ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound.” Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself
“The human being’s directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery.” Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human
My new book The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is now also available in paperback format. The Kindle version will be released near the end of November 2012.
To download the first chapter, click here
From the Description on Amazon: More exciting than any other kind of relationship you have ever known, spiritual partnership is a path, a Tao, available to you so that you may transform your life. Spiritual partnership becomes background music to daily life allowing you to enhance the process of your growth and evolution.
This ground-breaking book addresses:
• relationship patterns that hold you back from a truly fulfilled life
• the strong connection between sexuality and spiritual partnership
• communication leading to true connection & lasting transformation of your relationship
It is precisely at the problematic crossroads so often encountered in relationships that we are offered the opportunity to create a new foundation based on mutual complementarity rather than need; a free relationship between two people who want to be together, rather than two people who need to be together. Needing another, we are told, is the measure of love, but for a fully conscious individual nothing could be further from the truth. And therein lies part of the secret and healing power of spiritual partnerships.
Praise for The Tao of Spiritual Partnership
“All humans seek the illusive touch of another’s Soul, which opens us to the sense of belonging to something bigger than the self. Dr. Kortsch has given us the true “tao” of relationship in this brilliant exploration of emotional tapestry. We will be grateful for this illumination of spiritual partnership for generations to come.”
Chris Griscom: Spiritual Leader, Author
“Eloquently and comprehensive, showing how your primary love relationship may be a sacred vessel that transports you and your partner to a place of mutual healing and expansion.”
Robert Schwartz: Author of Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born
“The Tao of Spiritual Partnership is a unique blend of wit and wisdom; Dr. Kortsch encourages us to take responsibility for our relationships, while recognizing and seizing the opportunities for our own personal spiritual growth.”
William Buhlman, Author of Adventures Beyond the Body