The Process of Change

 How to get from A to B in your personal development.

Today is the day for change!

What you have in your mind at the start of the day is the beginning of that change. Changing a pattern of old behaviour is either a challenge or a delight depending on how you think about it.  Whatever happened yesterday let it go, this thinking is the key to everything. Start each new day with a positive affirmation and an attitude of gratitude for all that will happen today. Our thinking comes from our beliefs about everything and anything, what we believe frames all our thinking. So it’s our beliefs we have to concentrate on to start with. There are some keys questions we have to ask ourselves.

  • What do you believe about yourself?
  • What do you believe about your life?
  • What do you believe you deserve?
  • What do you believe your life is about?

Dig deep and really examine what you truly believe about yourself. Where you are up to with yourself? Are things going in the direction you desire? Your world around you gives you the clue, your relationships, your surroundings, your work etc. Are you happy with how it’s all panning out? What needs to change, what do you need to change? And probably the most important question is ‘what are you prepared to do to change the things you’re not happy about’?

Most of us tend to ‘buy into our story’ and get stuck there. This is the ‘ how it is’ syndrome which blocks us moving forward.   Where any of us are at any given time is because we’ve created it that way. How? Well somewhere there’s the belief that’s determining that chain of thought. We don’t do it consciously; those beliefs are hidden under decades of conditioning in our culture.

Recognising this pattern is your first step to change. Becoming aware of how you are thinking, and then consciously exchanging the negative to the positive. Warning, there’s a lot of energy in our patterns that don’t want to change. Inertia is a real energy, those patterns have been conditioned into us from the day we were born and most of our beliefs are ingrained by our parents and educators. I would hazard a guess that most of us don’t even know why we believe the things we do!

So time to re think.


What is the most important thing you want to achieve in your life?

Usually the answer is the same for all of us, happiness, peace of mind, great relationships and financial independence or freedom.

So now get crystal clear about each of those answers.

  • What is happiness to you?
  • What’s peace of mind, how do you feel when you think about the sensation of peace of mind?
  • What is a great relationship to you?
  • What does financial freedom feel like to you?

Whatever the most important things to you are, be as clear as you can in framing them. Get into the real feel of those feelings, imagine youself already being there.  Write them down. It’s amazing how many people just don’t do this. You need to be as specific and possible, this is your life you’re designing! It’s like building a house, you need a plan to work from, you put in the foundations and then start building. Without a plan your house won’t stand for long!

Congratulate yourself on each new achievement no matter how small, build on each positive. If you find yourself slipping, just start again. It’s a new adventure. A baby learning to walk never beats itself up for falling over it just starts again.

Enjoy the process, after all isn’t that what life is about!

What is your way of preparing yourself for change? I’d love to hear what works for you

Have a Great Day !! 


1 thought on “The Process of Change”

  1. What a perfect example to all of us and a great achievement form Andy Murray! In his interview this morning he spoke about how he was willing to change, how his intention was always to improve and he would do whatever it took to succeed. When asked what he was thinking when he missed 3 match points just before he won, he said he kept focused and concentrated on the next point. His belief that he could win and his determination helps all of us to feel anything is possible if we put our mind to it! Thanks Andy!!

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