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Have you ever wondered what you’ve done wrong? It has been a big part of my life up until I realised that I didn’t have to wonder anymore but realise the truth. I remember very well how it made me feel. Why don’t you close your eyes, relax and ask yourself now… What AM I doing wrong? and feel how your body/mind responds.   My body/mind goes all tense, its like I remember how it used to feel when I was being told off as a small child and put in my place. My breathe pauses, mind freezes, muscles tighten, blood, lymph and oxygen stop flowing, nerve pulses stop in mid air and penetrate my skin. My body and mind stop growing and I put myself in protection mode.   The only thing that stops me now from becoming absorbed in this incredible feeling of fear (and the consequences), is my recognition of a part of me that remains calm, stable and all loving, in the background. My consciousness… My IAM presence that embraces me, never muttering a word or judgement, only loving me unconditionally and showering me with Divine love. As she integrates with me… fuses herself together with my Human sacred body, my ego identity and all my aspects that continue to come home after a long long exile.   Her pure crystalline light is absorbing all my density… bringing in new codes that reprogram and update my DNA and dissolve all imprints of old patterns and programmes that have made me feel worthless, inferior, bad, dirty, deficient, shameful, meaningless, pointless, mindless and stupid… but are no longer of service to me as IAM allowing myself to evolve.   AND I understand, the words of my parents, teachers and friends whilst growing up… they were all they knew…. You must excel to get anywhere, become the best, learn well, work hard, do as your told, fit in, be good and quiet… and part of my Human experience to help me figure out how to love and nurture myself.   AND the people who continue to point the finger, blame, call and attack… me or others, remain caught up in their own story of survival, nothing to do with anyone else… so it cannot hurt another… unless the person chooses to be drawn into another’s story and be distracted from living their own life of celebration.   It is only because I have made it my priority to love myself… to care and get to know myself, All of myself over the last 30 years did I become aware of a loving presence that IAM and who has taught me… there is nothing I could ever do/be wrong because there is no judgement. No matter my imperfection, perfection, weakness and strength… in everything and whatever IAM… IAM loved unconditionally.   All my painful and distressing circumstances don’t come from something I have done wrong, but from a belief in something about myself and life that isn’t true.   All my Human experience, the joy and pain has allowed me to discern for myself what feels right and good for me and another, to gain Human love and wisdom and realise the truth of who IAM and allow myself to evolve consciously and embody the new DivineHuman Being… the Sovereign Master IAM… who lives a life of celebration on the physical plane.   It has taken me lifetimes of experience, playing the different roles… murderer, abuser, poor man, victim, controller, gentleman and lady… etc… etc… to learn the importance of…   *Reverence and honouring every story and journey of every living thing*Being open to receive Divine love*Being transparent in everything IAM*Loving and trusting All of Self (darkness and light)*Understanding lack does not exist and fear/evil is an energy created to make people belief they are powerless*Understanding it’s finally time for my Human self to surrender to the Divine part of me that is responsible for leading me forward on a new exciting adventure beyond everything known.   At one point my life was based on a foundation of fear, dishonour and incompleteness, but thankfully, I listened and remembered… my natural state of being is love, purity and completeness.   Take a look at what your life is based on… and know that living on a foundation of fear, judgement and about what others think… will not allow you to live a life of celebration, in fact, your divinity will rock you… until you either wake up to realise the truth and choose to love yourself… or your body/mind will give up in some way, as it can only take so much abuse and unkindness.     I’ve been writing my blog here on WordPress for the last 5 years, sharing my Human and Divine experience… inspiring hearts to awaken and realise their own truth. Today IAM here to tell you, you are not doing anything wrong AND if you don’t like what you’re experiencing take some quiet me-time to get to know yourself, love All of yourself, no matter what, open up to the more in life and receive the light you are.   Enjoy this poem that I wrote in a time of feeling being pulled into the game at the end of 2016.    Enveloped in a flow of darkness…   Feeling used, abused and tossed awayBullied, torn and wornWhat is LIFE all about?‘Cause I thought I was doing my bestAND following ALL the rules…   I stand tall, express well?Enjoy the life I perceiveThe miracle and magic intertwinedThroughout All creationConnecting everything together…   Yet the cold winds continue to whirl around mePeople acting out and pointing fingersAM I not wanted and rejected?Shall I close my heart and react?Or shall I follow an inner knowing…   A passion within that steers me to BREATHEConsciously in everything IAMTo trust and allow myself to followThe goodness of my own heart and soulFeeling safe in the magnificent world around…   Where did I go wrong?What did I misunderstand?All I wanted was to feel love and joyBe with others, have funDancing, playing and singing together…   YES, I can be direct and serious?Aren’t I just being open, honestAND honouring my own feelingsIsn’t that how IAM meant to be?Surely others feel my compassionate heart…   Only NOW, many years gone byDo I realise the game I continue to playA big distraction, to keep me awayFrom the POWER within, my natural state of beingAn abundant flow of LOVE and JOY..   If IAM lucky, I will pick up a bookBump into a person who inspires meBe AWARE of my individual truthAND rise above my dense physical realityTo a space where I perceive NEW potential…   I know now everyone plays the best roles we canThere is no fault, no blame, no judgementIt’s about experiencing, discovering what we love and desireAND realising IAM Magnificent, infinitely powerfulBecause IAM a reflection of YOU.   ~ Barbara Franken    Enjoy reading some of my blog posts of my experiencing both the darkness and the light.  Are YOU Choosing Love or Fear? Allowing Compassion to change society taboes. How to accept myself for Who IAM. How the Energy of 2017 can Serve us all.Will the Integration ever end? Its Time to Own Your Magnificent Self Astrology as a Tool. Are you Ready for true Freedom? What AM I choosing to experience? 2016… My Experience Awakening, Integrating and Choosing to live a life of celebration. Is Your life all about YOU? In the midst of turmoil When YOU choose for peace     Are you interested in participating in my next Writing Challenge…Before I finish this post… I have a new writing challenge for all my friends here… who may also feel strong about the race that has been declared between Artificial Intelligence & Consciousness… as the way to perfect the Human Being. I wrote this post Humankind is evolving SuperQuantum… a while back when I first became aware of A.I.   Wouldn’t it be great to do a little research (about A.I. outside and inside with consciousness) and write about why we each feel it is important for hearts to awaken to the truth of what consciousness is and how nothing can compete if we desire to live in a peaceful, joyful and loving world.   Please let me know your interest and lets see when we can begin, December or next year. I’ll share again every other week your writing on this very important topic and Who you Are too, books, blogs etc… All with the intention of opening hearts and souls to claim their own magnificence.   Barbara Franken… Creative Visionary & MasterCreatorInspiring New Energy Consciousness   A paperback and Digital Book is available from all Major online stores… Amazon and Apple   I share my own magical journey, exploring Who I AM with the help of nine Elemental Beings and expand from a world of fear, struggle and limitation into a New Energy Consciousness of love, grace and freedom. It is in this loving space that I discover my Divine and ALL LOVING self and allow myself to integrate together as one Body Consciousness… a DivineHumanBeing… and Magnificent Master Creator who expresses and creates heart and soul passion on the physical plane and beyond.     Are you READY to dive deep within yourself and prepare for your new role as Master & Creator? As Earth & Humankind find themselves amidst great change and transformation… my MasterCreator Class guides you into unknown territory for you to create a life of freedom, compassion and celebration. More Info: MasterCreator Class      All the money raised from my books and classes goes to my non-profit Business The Magnificent Consciousness to help inspire others through creative expression to explore, discover and express the magnificent Consciousness each person truly is and their unique space in the heart of life.  

What if, instead of having to carve out an hour at a time to see your physiotherapist, osteopath, chiropractor or massage therapist, you could spend just 20 minutes at a time for the same effect? What if you could do this either at a clinic OR in the privacy of your own home or sports club? The Mobiliser – passive spinal activation and massage system. Simple to set up Simple to use Simply effective With 16 different options you take control and tailor your treatment to what you want to achieve. While the Mobiliser is designed to work with just your body weight it also has 2 optional 5kg weights which you can place on your body for a more intense therapeutic effect. It can be used in conjunction with your therapy (before or after) to enhance results, or as a standalone treatment. The Mobiliser can be used daily, only with treatment or any frequency in between. Passive Spinal Motion Tool THE ROLLERS – Two rollers with 56 individual thumbs move from head to toe. Sports As The Mobiliser realigns your spine and relaxes your muscles it increases balance and mobility. With many testimonials from horse riders, rowers, golfers and footballers we know it increases performance, prevents injury and reduces recovery time for a whole range of athletes. Rent or Buy The Mobiliser is available for use here at the Bodyworks Clinic, you can buy one for your home, club or clinic or rent one per month. The choice is yours. A clinical massage solution suitable for therapists or home users. http://www.thebodyworksclinic.com/the-mobiliser/

This week two Facebook friends of mine lost ‘things’ of great value, specifically their gold wedding ring and their dog. In the ‘real world community’ I heard my aunt lost her purse. The reaction on Facebook was immediate with people sharing the ‘lost item’ post. People gave words of support and encouragement and offered to help. Here is the good news, the ring, the dog and the wallet were all handed in and returned to their relieved owners. Altruism is the word that means to do nice things for other people. Studies show that altruistic acts are inherent in us humans, we have inherent caring for one another. I am not saying that inherent caring reflects all of a person or society. I am discussing here this positive aspect of humanity and why it is so important to be aware of it. My three examples are a personal sample within a short time period where acts of kindness from strangers struck me. That wallet was lost in a supermarket, the gold wedding band was lost at a concert. The dog was found by a stranger who brought it to a vet where it was reunited with its owner, the next day! This stranger kept the dog overnight. Such acts of kindness! Supermarkets, concerts and the like are anonymous almost, people in the supermarket you typically don’t know. Yet if you lost something valuable, many of us, even though we are strangers, will find a way to return it to you. My stories prove it x 3! Psychologically it is good for us to know and to feel stories like this. Sometimes we have to look for positive stories like this as the local paper and social media can voice more concerns than praises for what goes on in society. I wrote the word ‘feel’ in the sentence above, on purpose, as what you feel can be different from what is factually true. We feel the stories we read. What we read and report on social media has an impact on our sense of our community & our world. I saw a study recently how people were statistically a lot safer in fact in their community than what they felt. Their risk level for being a victim of crime statistically was very low, though perhaps they felt less safe. There is a link to a Swedish economists article in the http link below that you may well find very interesting on this topic. We don’t see news articles with a headline ‘99.9% of the population had no major incident yesterday.’ Not only is it good for your own mental and heart health to be balanced with your attitude about people & society, but it is also good for the wider community of people connected to you. Whether on social media or face to face, you are still part of that community. What you say matters as it affects not only you but others around you. I mentioned mental and heart health above in terms of its relation to peoples attitude & perspective. I did that for good reason and it’s fascinating why. No longer hidden information, there is an amazing study of hate and angry language use on Twitter. The study shows that the communities with a lot of hate and angry word usage had higher heart disease rates. Not only that, this study was so amazing that it found it predicted heart disease occurring in that community better than statistics used by the CDC (USA Centre for Disease Control). The links to that are within the http link below, makes for fascinating reading! This article is a shortened version of a piece I wrote in my website blog here is the link.http://www.claritytherapy.es/blog/category/kindness-in-society   www.claritytherapy.es – Website   Facebook – Facebook   Clarity Therapy on Twitter  – Twitter 

  In alignment with this day of International World Peace, I am considering what each of us can empower ourselves to do, to contribute the development of our peace.  There are many pathways, visions, ideas and indeed actions already in play. To contribute to peace does not require a constant state of peace, although that would be a wonderful ideal, to contribute to peace, is to make mindful effort to grow in peace as much as we can, when we can, and many of us are already doing this, in our own unique ways, throughout most days of our lives. Anyone who practices peace, anyone who makes the choice to accept and to forgive instead of to fight, anyone who makes a kind or compassionate choice, anyone who actively supports well-being and positive living, anyone who researches on how we can create more positive communities, anyone who chooses to heal their emotional pain and suffering, anyone who is able to love, accept and nurture a child, anyone who supports the sustainability of our planet, the care of our animal, anyone who tolerates and accepts varied beliefs,  anyone who promotes the awareness and integration of positive values, anyone who chooses to listen to their heart, anyone who lives by their own heart-centered truth, anyone who marks this day as the initiation of a commitment to be more peaceful in thought and action, is contributing to peace. This morning, I was discussing child and adolescent mental health with my colleagues and a theme than arose from this conversation was the need for awareness of how we promote mental health and well-being in our communities. What seems to be needed is to talk about these issues, in homes, schools and places of work and socializing. Mental health affects everyone, and only by talking about it will be cultivate the understanding, that makes it possible to grow into acceptance. It was this awareness issue that reminded me to reflect on where we are with World Peace. I think we have surpassed the awareness stage; we know we need peace and we want more peace at many levels; internally, within our daily lives and on a global political, religious and environmental scale.  What I believe we need now, is a vision of peace. I do not believe we need to strive for one ultimate vision; our differences of viewpoint and opinion are the colours that make our world beautiful. I believe we are at the stage of understanding what growing peace in our lives means; what does it mean to you and me, to our family members, our students and teachers, our colleagues and community leaders, and to those we choose and trust to lead us. We need to really understand the meaning of peace, if we are to take it from an idea or ideal and integrate peace into our daily lives. What does peace mean to you? I am not going to tell you what your peace means, what I can do, is share with you what peace means to me, and perhaps through this, inspire in you the emergence or connection with your personal truth. When we are each clear about what peace means, we are half way to creating peace in our world. I discovered peace after many years of working through my own fears and anxiety. I developed the mind management tools to dismantle my fears, choose positive perceptions, practice relaxation techniques, choose healthy distractions away from spiralling descents into a whirlwind of fearsome thoughts, while managing fear and doubt and uncertainty. However,  although empowering, this alone did not bring me peace. I needed to understand how to manage my fear before I had any chance of moving into peace. In time, my process lead me into years of learning to truly understand and integrate the art of acceptance; to accept my past and my present, to accept who I was and who I have become, to accept my limitations, to accept things I do not like about myself and my world, to accept feelings and emotions that are uncomfortable, and to accept my perfect ideals and some of my really important dreams may never be, but  that certainly that I will never give up working to live them. As I integrated acceptance, through the way I would think and talk to myself, and the way I reacted to others, I witnessed and emerging  sense of peace. At the same time, thoughts of gratitude and appreciation for what I had arose from within, and with this, I felt deeper sensations of peace. With more time and inner work, I encountered forgiveness, as if a natural progression from acceptance, and in forgiveness, so much could be let go, making space within me for more peace. Then, as if a natural flow, I found myself meandering into moments of compassion, because with growing understanding, acceptance and forgiveness, gratitude and appreciation of myself and others in my world, I began to not just know, at an intellectual level, but to feel, that we are all so alike; we are connected, we influence each other every moment of our lives. To choose compassion connects you and me at the heart, and from the heart, no longer analysing or thinking, just being present in love, it seems to me to be a natural occurrence that the arising thoughts and actions we make are positive, and that my presence with myself is more at peace. My work is to make time to connect with my heart and make this a lifetime practice, because in this, I find my peace, often inspired by natural beauty and random acts of kindness that I witness in my world. I know that we have the power to create peace in our world; we are the peace.  What does peace mean to you?What is your vision of peace?How can you grow more peace in your world With peace,Antonia If you are interested in working with me to develop your fear management techniques and grow through the process of learning to live from the heart, please feel free to get in touch. You are welcome to request a no obligation 30-minute complimentary discovery session, to experience how working together can benefit you. Contact me at: antonia@antoniabehan.com  ​Thank you

  Earth and All Humanity stand on the cutting edge of Evolution… an Evolution of Consciousness… as one heart at a time opens and deepens to a new quantum awareness, to realise there is so much more to who YOU are and the physical reality YOU live in.   Whether YOUR mind/body believes this or not, nothing will stop this grand transformation from happening now.   Warning…This natural transformation turns everyone/thing upside down and inside out… cleaning up everything that is not aligned/balanced in love, harmony and unity and upgrades your system in preparation for a new quantum and magnificent adventure beyond everything ever known.   Your body/mind, identity, relationships, home, work and the outside world will be no exception to feeling the chaos, dis-ease and destruction of everything built on fear and lack. Eventually YOUR heart/soul will resonate with this truth and be excited to join the greatest celebration of LOVE ever to take place on Earth.   But YOU don’t have to wait that long…   IAM here to help you make sense of it all NOW… and tell you it’s going to be OK…    It’s not necessary to stay stuck in your Human experience and suffer… instead you can allow yourself to flow through it all with ease and grace and prepare to live an effortless and limitless life as Your Magnificent Self.   It’s a choice YOU can make. How do you CHOOSE to live through these days?   You can choose to allow my own Awakening story to resonate and open your Heart to realise your own truth and embody the Master and Creator you were born to be.   ‘A most magical journey exploring Who IAM with nine Elemental Beings I perceive along the way and help me discover and integrate all of myself. My Body, Mind, Spirit/ALL LOVING self and aspects that allows me to step out of a dual world of fear, struggle and limitation and into a world of unity, love, grace and freedom’.     AND… Join our MasterCreator Class, a sacred space to commit to and celebrate your new role as MasterCreator, an Energy Pioneer, who explores, discovers and creates New Earth from within. There is nothing more to learn or do… ONLY… remember your origin, how energy dynamics work and allow yourself to unfold in the heart of life.   It is an intense period of 35 days in which to dedicate to yourself.  To dive deep within yourself, expand your awareness through passive/active relaxation and creative activities, clear old programmes and fully realise your heart and soul’s desire. Each day you look deeply at yourself, complete homework and prepare for a weekly group class. A wonderful opportunity for you to step into your power and take the leading role on life’s stage as Your Magnificent Self. Week 0 Oct 21 – Receive Homework to prepare for the classWeek 1 Oct 28 – Loving & Trusting YourselfWeek 2 Nov 4 – Acceptance & Understanding All of LifeWeek 3 Nov 11 – The Voice of All KnowingWeek 4 Nov 18 – Discovering the UnknownWeek 5 Nov 25 – Celebrating your IAM Presence   First Act: The Dance of Love and Trust…     You remember how essential it is to LOVE yourself First and spend quality Quiet Me-Time sinking into the depths of yourself, getting to know All parts of You… Body, Mind, Spirit and Aspects. You become your own best friend and allow yourself to become conscious of everything… what you like and don’t like, what and who serves you and doesn’t, what keeps you excited and feeling great.   You realise it is your Human Body/Mind’s responsibility to be aware of everything you are and experience and surrender to and trust your Divinity, who is responsible for your integration with all of yourself to take you beyond on a most magical journey.   You realise you can never go back to living in the old ways of duality… relying on others to make you feel good and powerful, although your doubts and judgments try and bring you back into drama, but you know how to smile and be grateful for everything you are and listen careful to yourself. Oh why did I wait so long!   Second Act: Acceptance & Understanding All of Life…   You take a look at the ‘bigger picture’ of your own past/present/future and life outside you that allows you to perceive how energy dynamics flow and create life’s beautiful magical tapestry. You realise how everyone’s equal and unique part in life, is a journey to realisation and to be honoured and respected. This encourages you to open up to all your own darkness and light, welcoming back to the mother ship all your wounded and broken aspects that need to be embraced and be part of the next adventure beyond.   You realise everything is energy and serves you, and move any stuck energy through your Body/Mind… mostly fear that is based on the denial of self and a belief in lack, that is not real or true. This allows your vessel to remain empty to receive new potential and ensure you’re not tempted back to play the game.   Third Act:  The Voice of All Knowing…    You remember the times you felt alone, lost and helpless and allow your own sovereign loving presence to console you and show you all your answers you may need in each moment. As you resonate with your knowingness, it fills you with much joy that allows you to fully focus on being Grand, Vibrant, Infinite, Divine, Magnificent and All Powerful and able to create… quite magically your heart and soul desires.   You realise how essential it is to be aware of your own inner knowing. Nobody knows how you feel, what you dream of or desire and most of all what brings you the greatest excitement.   Fourth Act: Discovering the Unknown…  As you dive deeper into the core of YOU…  you recognise a new playfulness and aliveness that allows you to release your deepest fears, feel the deepest joy for you to follow your inner passion and create and experience your grandest dream.   You realise that many people out there will tell you about discovering the unknown… for a high price too, but what you discover ensures your free passage beyond the known and into a space where you experience true freedom.   Fifth Act: Celebrating You…    As you commit to and celebrate your new role as MasterCreator and the natural transformation happening within you…your NEW feeling of joy and freedom expands in quite a miraculous way, bringing in unimaginable magical potential for you to live the life you were born to live and inspire All Humanity to shine their light too and journey beyond.   You realise that all your Human experience, the good and not so good has prepared you to quantum leap into your new adventure you create in each moment.   Please register your place before October 14th. Thank youOur Local Class on the Costa del Sol   Cost…As a non-profit ‘Asociacion Conciencia Magnifica’ I ask for a small donation of 65 € for the ‘five week’ MasterCreator Class You can either:Register and pay 65 € onlineEmail me at info@memymagnificentself.com to arrange to meet up and give a cash deposit of 35 € orRegister with Lisa at StudioMindBody and pay a cash deposit of 35 €   For the ones who live outside of the Costa del Sol, you can participate in our Online Class  from the comfort of your home and at your own pace… for a donation of 33 €   The Magnificent Consciousness raises money from my books and classes to help inspire others through creative expression to explore, discover and express the magnificent Consciousness each person truly is and their unique space in the heart of life.   P.S. I would appreciate my friends sharing this blog post and invitation of my next Local MasterCreator Class. Thank you so much.   Barbara Franken… Creative Visionary & MasterCreator… Inspiring New Energy Consciousness A paperback and Digital version of my book is available from all Major online stores… Amazon and Apple                                  

If you know someone with Anxiety or you have it please read this. It is important to know that anxiety is not something that is just in your head. It is not simply thought related. Thoughts are part of it or can be but they are not the whole picture. I want to communicate in this information piece that you can get a blood test and find out what is causing your anxiety. You can do that. That is possible. Your anxiety can be treated more simply than probably you realise. Than perhaps your Doctor or Therapist realises. Read this and let me explain as this information can save a lot of misery. Anxiety is felt through neurotransmitters, these are chemicals or hormones. The main players are Serotonin, Gaba, Dopamine, Epinephrine. They exist in all of us, they are how we process feelings and emotions and react to tension. The fight or flight response, the anxiety response, thats Epinephrine pretty much. Some others are involved but for the sake of simplicity lets say its Epinephrine. Where or how do you think that is made? Maybe you never thought of how Serotonin is made or any of your mood chemicals? This is important information.. 90% are made in your GUT. Not in your head. They are made from amino acids (parts of protein) and Vitamins and Minerals in your stomach and your organs such as the liver. So, you can take a blood test and see that you are low in Vitamin B6 for example, or Tyrosine or Tryptophan or Magnesium…there is a long list that you can be low in. ANY ONE OF THESE WILL AFFECT HOW YOUR BODY PRODUCES THESE MOOD HORMONES. As it is these minerals or vitamins that the body uses to produce these hormones then if you are lacking in one of them or are having issue in processing one of them then your mood will be affected. It can be the reason for your anxiety or at least a big part of it. Tyrosine is an amino acid (part of protein) and if you are low in this in your body then chances are you have anxiety. If you are low in it, it will show in your blood test. Thing is, you can take a supplement of Tyrosine and address your lacking. In many instances, this is enough to take away the anxiety symptoms. This is true. It can be that easy. No drugs needed, no therapy even maybe perhaps. Anxiety is physiological as well as thinking habits or trauma related in many cases. However for you it may only be your body lacking in a nutrient it needs to make that neurochemical. Simple as that. Did you know that in a blood test you can check your serotonin levels? Well, you can. Its result is not a definitive answer however it gives a good place to start addressing your mood balancing issues. I advise my anxiety clients to get a full blood test. Especially with females to test hormones in a blood test. Also, it is important to see what is going on with the stomach and liver and kidneys as poor absorption of nutrients will affect mood. So it may be that the focus of treatment has to involve why a persons system, why their organs are not processing nutrients efficiently. What I am saying here is there are more avenues to treating Anxiety than just medical intervention or talk therapy. More can be done. Sometimes the answer is quick. A blood test will give indications of that and to see if that is in fact possible. I hope this has enlightened and given hope to someone reading this. I am a psychologist by education and I understand anxiety. If you have anxiety and wish to talk to me about how my approach can help I would be delighted to help you.  http://www.umm.edu/…/med…/reports/articles/anxiety-disorders – Maryland University – scroll down the page to CAUSES which explains what I have just explained http://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/biochemistry-of-anxiety – explains about the neurotransmitters https://www.health.harvard.edu/…/nutritional-psychiatry-you… – Harvard article explaining what I have said in this article www.claritytherapy.es – Website   Facebook – Facebook   Clarity Therapy on Twitter  – Twitter