In the Make it Happen Studio, I talked to Lauren Rosenberg. Lauren is a part time resident of Estepona. She has recently published her book “How to Move Forward when the Unthinkable Happens: Love, Light and Liora”. The first part of her book is the story of losing her daughter, Liora, at 20 and the second part is a self help book on how to move forward after loss or an unthinkable event with plenty of practical exercises to do. Watch the video to hear the families story.
Hello Lauren! You were originally from France, lived in LA and now in UK and part time in Estepona – tell us why you choose Spain.
We visit Estepona regularly and love the language, the people, the weather. Estepona is beautiful – fresh air, amazing weather, good food.
During Covid19, you are stuck in the UK and working on your business ‘Fear Busters’. How did that start?
I started Fearbusters when I saw that using holistic therapy helped one of my daughters who was under 8 different consultants and her health was not improving. So I started learning holistic therapy and applied it on my daughter and over 6 months her health was fully restored.
And during the lockdown, you have published your personal story. “How to Move Forward when the Unthinkable Happens: Love, Light and Liora” Tell us why you wrote the book
I wanted everyone to know what I know re energy techniques. I want everyone to have some tools to know how to deal with emotions. I felt compelled to to share how I coped with this terrible tragic event and been able to move forward to continue to create a purposeful and meaningful life for myself and my children.
The first part of my book is about my story of losing my daughter and the second part is a self help book on how to move forward after loss or an unthinkable event with plenty of practical exercises to do.
What has been the biggest support to you when dealing with the loss of Liora?
Being an energist and knowing how to use the techniques I use in my clinic with my clients.
Without this knowledge I am not sure how I would have coped.
Extract of my book:
“I know that for many, death and grief are taboo subjects. But all of us will experience loss at some point so I want to encourage you to share your grief. If we share our vulnerability with others, we can create much closer bonds. It’s easy to feel that you should shut yourself off when you’re struggling with grief, but I believe it’s better to reach out to those you trust at difficult times. They may have ideas and insights that might help us, and they can also give us the nurturing care we need. It’s when we’re in need that we discover who’s willing to walk alongside us. After all, we would help them in the same way. Sometimes it’s the people we least expect who give us the most support. But if we don’t open up, we’ll never find out. Along with our own strength and resilience, letting others in can help us manage the burden of grief.
We can also check our thoughts and feelings by talking to others. Understanding our feelings can help release us from the guilt or the selfishness we might have about sharing our grief.
Sharing in this way can also help others have a greater understanding of their own feelings and help them become more empathetic. When we share our fears, pain, joy and hopes, we share the universe’s wisdom and its loving care. I’ve heard death referred to as ‘emigrating to heaven’. After my experience, this is how I see death now. I think we are born into a body and leave it when we ‘die’; we still exist, just in a different form. An important point to remember is that the love you have for the person who has passed away will always be with you because love never dies. I don’t like the expression ‘I am sorry for your loss’ as I don’t feel I have lost my daughter. I may have lost the physical part of her, but she is still very much with us. Energy never dies”
What do you think your daughter would say to you now?
That she is very proud of me and her sisters
During the lockdown how have you been spending your days?
Restructuring my work online, opening online classes and workshops and event helping and supporting children and adults with their emotions.
What is your favourite tools for dealing with fear and/or the current situation?
Emo trance and colour therapy and body code
What positives have you seen coming out of the Covid19 lockdown?
My girls are learning the practical aspect of life helping cooking clearing up, painting …. they are learning to adapt even more.
We have more time doing things together and using our imaginations to find ways of spending the day. Playing board games, doing puzzles.
My 12 years old change the lounge into a movie place one night pretending we were at the cinema.
We are even more grateful for what we have.
Best piece of advice you’ve ever been given
Never give up
“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light” Albert Dumbledore
Something you will achieve when the lockdown finally ends?
I want to go horse riding and fly to see my parents in France.
How can we connect with you?
Through my website: www.fear-busters.com
Or Facebook: Lauren Rosenberg
LinkedIn: Lauren Rosenberg