Why It’s So Hard To Make Changes By Yourself

Hi, I’m Marléne Rose Shaw, I’m a therapist and coach, and I’m also the author of the book: Out Of Fear Into Love: Life doesn’t have to be a struggle.


I’ve been privileged to help people for over 20 years, and I just love what I do!


One of the things I love most, is seeing the change in people’s lives. It’s wonderful to see my clients overcome problems that have been keeping them stuck, sometimes for a long time.

I can help you with:

• Low Confidence
• Stress, Anxiety and Panic Attacks
• Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress
• Anger Management
• Relationship Problems
• I am also a Couples Therapist.

Does the following sound familiar?

• You’re stuck in a problem — you try to overcome it, but nothing seems to work

• You overcome your problem for a while, but somehow you keep slipping back into old patterns

Why it can be so hard to make changes by yourself

Limiting Beliefs

In helping so many people, I’ve discovered that those problems we find so hard to overcome are generally caused, and maintained, by the self-limiting beliefs deeply buried in the subconscious mind.

Ideas about having to struggle alone, to be strong, to prove ourselves as good enough, to keep pleasing others, and so on – these patterns are often formed in our earliest years when we’re much too young to understand how life really works.
And because the subconscious mind dictates around 95% of our feelings, thoughts and behaviours, we keep replaying those same patterns and thus having the same experiences.

It’s no wonder we find it so hard to make changes by ourselves!


How I help my clients make remarkable changes


The world of therapy has radically changed in recent years. Modern Energy Psychologies combined with conventional Talk Therapies mean we can go beyond the results that traditional counselling has to offer.
Techniques such as Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) and Matrix Reimprinting, (collectively known as Energy Psychology) are fast acting methods which can access the subconscious mind to help uncover and release unhelpful thinking patterns and trapped emotions.

By combining these leading edge techniques with traditional methods, such as Talk Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (C.B.T) and Transactional Analysis (T.A)  I help my clients achieve remarkable results in letting go of the impact of the past; so they can begin to rewrite the story of their life, with better relationships, more confidence and success.

Evolving Through Our “Wisdom Lessons”


Help for relationship problems Mijas Costa

Like so many of my clients, I too have had some challenging times along the journey of my life; and because of this, I can empathise with the struggles that clients bring to me.

Over time, I’ve come to understand that life is all about learning and evolving. The mistakes we make, our challenges, and the difficulties we face with others – these are the “wisdom lessons” that we’re meant to learn – they are part of the journey of life.

It’s my greatest thrill to help people discover their own wisdom lessons; to work through them, and most importantly to let go of their struggles permanently so that they can begin to rewrite the story of their life.

It’s not just about what you don’t want – it’s about what you do want

And because I believe that life is an ongoing journey into wisdom, I don’t just help my clients get rid of current problems – I also help them decide what the new story of their life is going to look like, and I provide them with tools and techniques that they can use to help themselves on into the future.

If you need a little help right now, you’ll find a ton of useful articles and resources at my website: https://marleneroseshaw.com/blog  Or perhaps you’d like to book in some sessions.

Would you like some one-to-one sessions with me?


Counselling and Therapy Mijas Costa

I offer face-to-face counselling and therapy sessions for individuals and couples in Mijas Costa, Malaga

I also offer online sessions across the Costa del Sol and worldwide via Skype or Zoom


To get in touch


Give me a call or WhatsApp on either:

+34 602 489 656
+44 7429 440968


Or fill out the form here. I look forward to hearing from you and helping you.


Here are my qualifications:

Honours Degree in Applied Psychology
• Post Graduate: Advanced Diploma in Counselling
• Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling Supervision
• Post Graduate Diploma in Couples Counselling
• Certified Practitioner Level 2 in EFT Emotional Freedom Techniques
• Certified Practitioner in Matrix Reimprinting
• Accredited Practitioner Level 2 EFT Emotional Freedom Techniques AAMET


1 thought on “Why It’s So Hard To Make Changes By Yourself”

  1. So nice to read about your business Marlene... and helping people be the change as they move forwards out of old struggle. love Barbara x

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