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How to Stop Indecision in its track!    Have you ever been stuck in the limbo of “decision paralysis?”  It happens more often than you realize.  I want to help you get past the decision-making turmoil so that you can actually make ONE decision to help you jump-ship into a Luxury liner.      There is no point in staying paralyzed because you are overwhelmed with so many decisions, each one of them carrying so many choices, and you are afraid  of proceeding to make a mistake with your choices.   First of all consider that every choice has a couple of options.  And for every option, there is an up-side and a down-side.   Focus on ONE decision at a time.  Put pen to paper and prioritize in order of importance what needs to be done first, then next, and so on.   On that same piece of paper, state the options for your first prioritized decision.  Then write-out the ups and down of each decision.  If you have more ups than not, then you will know very clearly which way to go.   If on the other hand, you have the same number of ups as you do downs, this is where you have to summon the power of your instinct and intuition, and start asking your Higher Power for guidance as to what would be the best option for you at this precise moment in time.  The answer will come.  Once it does, TRUST your intuition and then TRUST the process it will take for things to fall into place for you.  Remember, keyword here is TRUST.   Moving on to the second phase of your decision-making process:  Have a very clear vision of what it is you want to accomplish.  And this begins with: Creating the intention to be present and in the present.   Showing-up in life! (and for life.)  Letting go of what you cannot control.  Living with intention and in the present makes it so much easier to arrive at your decision-making process, even if it’s just to shake-off the paralysis you’ve felt before.  Having a clear intention helps you tremendously to make that one single, solitary decision; no matter how big or small.          Creating the intention to be present helps you overcome the sense of sadness that comes when you don’t fully show up in life.  When that happens, it leaves a great void, and the rest of the people in your life are being let-down by your absence.  Don’t’ do that.  Always show up, even if you think you can’t.  Even if you are late, show-up anyways!  It is one of the most meaningful things you can do for your family, your friends, and more importantly….for yourself.  By doing so, you are strengthening your ‘decision-making’ muscle and forming a new habit for successful outcomes.    Remember all of your assets, focus on all the things you know how to do so well, and above all, remember what makes you TICK!  This will help you let go of what you cannot control, so that you can do something about those things that indeed, you can control.  Let that be your driving force in shaking-off the decision-making blues.   Look for the “happiness element” on the things you need to decide.  Once you start making decision, even if a little one, you start chasing away the paralysis felt before, and your intellect will begin to think with a much clearer picture of what you really want, and once you start feeling better, you will continue to make more decisions that will have you feeling even better than before.  One joyous moment will lead to another, and soon, you will be saying to yourself, and with a great deal of satisfaction: “Mission Accomplished!” Wishing you always much love and success, Ali R. Rodriguez International Business Coach, Passionista Leader Intuitive Activist http://AliRodriguez.com

If you want to re-kick start your business, are thinking about starting a new one, or finding it hard to get back into the business mode after the summer we are here to help!  This month we have three Business focused events taking place in Marbella.    The first is what we hope will be a regular two weekly event – Costa Women Costa del Sol: Business Breakfast September 24, 2013 from 8:30am to 10am – Small World Cafe at Le Village, Ctra. de Istan and has been organised by Joy Fahey Costa Women opens it doors for Breakfast! A great new way of networking and meeting new people, and a motivating way to start your day! Kicking off with Speed Networking. Don’t forget your business cards! For a more focused full day session, on 1st October from 9.30 am through to 5 pm we have Marbella Business Workshop: Marketing Made Simple October 1, 2013 from 9:30am to 5pm – American College of Marbella Get your business back on track after the summer!  In association with Georgina Shaw of Shaw Marketing Services, Ali Meehan of Sociomimetics, Pancho Campo of Chrand Management and Joy Fahey Motivational Coach –  The course will cost 50€ per Costa Woman member, including coffee and lunch and all materials provided at the workshop.  Payment must be made before the event at one of the Costa Women evenings by 25th September, or in person to Georgina Shaw, Joy Fahey or Ali Meehan at least 72 hours prior to the event. Sign up and pay before 20th September to automatically become part of the Facebook Mastermind group and continue to receive support and tips long after the event has taken place.  Additionally, a Buddy scheme will be put in place after the event with another attendee to provide support and encouragement. This is a ticket only event, with limited availability so if you want to attend please click on the event title above and book your space!   Last, but not least, I am delighted to announce that one of my sources of inspiration, Vanessa Vallely, is coming to the Costa del Sol for Costa Women Business Networking: The Power of Profile on October 24, 2013 from 7:30pm to 11pm – Restaurante – La Veranda Verde.  Vanessa Vallely is Founder of the Networking site – wearethecity.com which has over 3 million hits per month with over 70,000 unique visitors. Any questions don’t hesitate to email me costawomen@gmail.com or connect on here!

I had a great day yesterday at The Dental Mavericks, Party in the Park event in Alhaurin.Here are the photos I took http://ning.it/14Sn2hMThis week I also started a new campaign for The Irishman Marbella....

Hello Ladies Are you in business or thinking about starting a business, then you don’t want to miss this. Watch now for all the information you need to have a successful and thriving business –      

http://http://thegiftifonlyyouknew.com/blog/entry/the-law-of-everything-and-the-power-of-influence   Changing the world for a better ever more A higher state of being, to become, to adore Conscious awareness guides you to reality A vision of truth, with harmonious clarity Time speeding up The next level of our evolution Become the change you want to see in the world In Mahatma Gandhi’s wise words, you’ll find the solution The Law of everything and the Power of Influence IS The Law of Attractions missing link Who or what you’re influenced by Blossoms the thoughts that you think For as a man thinketh, so he becomes with out doubt Ask yourself this, what are you thinking about? You’re trying to live the Law of Attraction You’re having the thoughts, then taking the action But it just doesn’t work; you’re not getting the gist Do you want to know why? There’s something you’ve missed! Who or what you’re influenced by, is no coincidence It’s the law of everything, and the power of influence Self influence, the missing link, for your dreams to come true You’re creating your life, life does not create you Be consciously aware, be love, always in the moment of NOW Tunnel your vision with blinkers that’s how Be your own greatest influence, for there lays your power Drag out from your depths, your greatest desires Any one or thing can influence you It is your choice, yes your choice, of the thoughts you let through You must lovingly act the part in your life’s play Every hour every minute consciously, all day You are the master of your mind It is YOU, who is the answer to peace on earth for mankind The End of an era, a new beginning in time A conscious awareness that is so sublime Our thoughts are vibrations Attracting thought seeds that we sow Do you get the gist now, let the negative go! We are stuff made of stars, cosmic vibrations Your thoughts are energy that vibrate your creations Tap into the universal mind, Love, peace, and joy you will find Inspiration, let it shine through you For as you shine, the world will too! Influence yourself, a great decision A united world A Beautiful Vision  Love Simone

Autumn Cleanse: 2. How to eliminate toxic emotions with EFT   In the last blog we looked at how we eliminate toxic emotions unconsciously through practising Mindfulness. While we don’t generally choose to work on a specific emotion if an emotion does happen to arise during your Mindfulness practice you can then work on it consciously. I will be covering how to work with emotions as they arise on the Autumn Cleanse holistic detox weekend.   With EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) or ‘tapping’ you consciously choose the emotion you want to work on. (If you’re new to EFT check out the link at the end of the blog which will take you to my website for more information on EFT and how to start tapping.) Once you’ve chosen the emotion you can approach it in one of two ways: top down or bottom up. You can either focus on the emotion itself (top down) or you can choose to work on specific events in your life that caused you to experience that emotion (bottom up).   Bottom Up – Specific Events Being as specific as possible is very much encouraged in EFT because it produces such quick and visible results, which of course encourages you to continue tapping!   For example if you chose to work with anger – start by making a list of all the experiences you can remember that caused you to feel angry. Then working with each one in turn begin by assessing on a scale of 0 to 10 (where 10 is really angry and 0 there is no anger remaining) how much anger still remains today when you think of that specific event. Run through the event in your mind in detail to find any specific nuances that still cause the anger to spike – it may be what someone did, their tone of voice, their words, a look etc. Once you have the specifics, start tapping.   For example: ‘Even though I’m so angry, how dare he talk to me in that sneering tone of voice, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and how I feel’.   While you tap, don’t hold back – allow yourself to rant and really vent your feelings. But remember to keep tapping all the while, if you rant and vent without tapping you will just be feeding the anger!   Top Down – Emotions: Metaphors and Sensations But if you are new to EFT or the thought of making a list is daunting and you don’t even know where to start, you may prefer to focus on the emotion itself. It can be very powerful to tap using a metaphor like the one mentioned in my previous blog or, even better, to create your own metaphor. Choose the emotion you want to work on and then start by asking yourself on a scale of zero to ten how full your ‘sack’ is, where ten is totally full and zero is completely empty. Then begin to tap. For example ‘Even though my anger sack is full to overflowing! I deeply and completely love and accept myself and how I feel’.   Another powerful way to work with emotions is to notice where in your body you feel the anger and the sensations it produces and use those words as you tap. For example ‘Even though I have this red hot anger churning away in my stomach, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and how I feel’.   If you are actually in a situation that is provoking a very strong emotion you can even tap without words, because the words are there primarily to keep you focused on the emotion. Sometimes it can be really helpful to excuse yourself and go somewhere private to tap on the emotion. When you return you will be in a much better frame of mind to deal with the person or situation in a more positive way.   To help us on our journey to reach Emotional Freedom Gary Craig, the creator of EFT, came up with what he calls the Personal Peace Procedure (PPP). You start by listing every experience in your life that has left you with any kind of negative emotion. Working on one experience at a time (for the more traumatic ones you may need the help of a therapist) you tap away each and every one of the negative emotions that that experience still evokes in you today. You work on them one by one until they are completely cleared and you can think of that specific experience without any negative emotion whatsoever.   Meditating on a daily basis and using EFT whenever you experience negative emotions is a fantastic way to invest in your emotional wellbeing. Starting work on your Personal Peace Procedure will put you firmly on your path to Emotional Freedom.   For more information about how to start tapping, visit my website http://www.getenergised.com/ENGLISH-EFT.html. There is also a link where you can download a free EFT manual. Gary Craig’s website http://www.emofree.com/ is a mine of information and you can find more about the Personal Peace Procedure here http://www.emofree.com/eft/peace.html.   Autumn Cleanse: a holistic detox for the mind, body and spirit. Enjoy a weekend in magical Tarifa with EFT, Mindfulness, energy exercises and simple healthy food and juices that will leave you feeling amazing!   For more information and a full daily schedule http://www.getenergised.com/Autumn-Cleanse.html