Costa Women Blogs

So many of you have achieved something extraordinary during the pandemic. Meet Vanesa Nicolosi recently arrived in Spain who created a whole new life, career and focus during the last year.   How did you end up living in Spain? My husband and I (both Argentinean) had been living in Dubai for 5 years and we had been looking for a place that felt more like home and “real life” for a while.  We decided for Spain as culturally it is very diverse and at the same time very similar to what we had back home in Argentina. We love the food, the people, the way of life here.     Where in Spain do we find you? Madrid – amazing opportunities to meet people from all over the world, the weather is fantastic, and there’s never a dull moment!   What was your biggest challenge? I started over in my life when I moved here. Literally changed careers from a desk job to becoming a personal trainer. My biggest challenge was to start working on my own, in a place I didn’t know anything about and with people didn’t know either and during Covid times too!   How do you spend your days? As a personal trainer, I commute a lot to people’s houses or outdoor areas for work. But that is a commute I definitely enjoy! I also teach many classes online so a big part of my time I spend at home. The rest of the time, I do my own training. I practice Pole Fitness and also do flexibility training. I also study (doing 3 courses at the moment), watch some Netflix, cook, spend time with my husband and friends and try to learn more and more on how to take my business where I want it to go.       Who would be at your favourite dinner? Might be because of the circumstances, but I haven’t seen my family and friends from Argentina in 2 years, or my friends in Dubai for a year. So definitely, I would invite my mom, dad and brother, plus all the friends from those places and my new ones from here.   Secret weapon or accomplishment? I honestly don’t have any in secret hehe! Biggest accomplishment so far is being able to help women get stronger and healthier everyday – so proud of that!   Favourite quote and why? “Smile, it confuses people” – People I’ve worked with kept telling me I was always happy, smiling, and asking why, as if it were weird to be happy! Mind you, this was in office jobs where people seemed to be doing it just for the money.  But still, even today, it surprises me that a lot of people would think of you as a “sapo de otro pozo” for smiling or just showing your happiness.   What did you have to bring with you to Spain? My cat! Not a thing, but it is the only one I would never give up.   Regarding objects, my American Gods book by Neil Gaiman. I had 10 of his books, he is indeed my favorite. But I felt this one, I couldn’t leave behind. Read it twice and currently watching the series.   Did you have a favourite childhood book? I don’t have a favorite but I do have a favorite moment related to books. When I was a kid, I used to help the school librarian a lot.  I just loved, and still do!, the smell of books and just the atmosphere of the library.   Something you would tell your younger self? Believe in yourself and don’t doubt so much!   Where can we connect with you? WEB: https://www.vanesanicolosi.com/ OR Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanesanicolosi/   Thank you Vanesa!   Do you want to share your story?  Complete the online questionnaire here  

    Do I hear you asking… what on Earth is going on? Well now you mention it, Love has won! Yet what you are sensing now is Humanity on a grand scale, experiencing how each person takes back their Sovereign power and freedom and moves themself beyond separation and darkness. Forging a new path, a higher timeline for all to follow, whether in this lifetime or the next and experience Unity, Love and Harmony on Earth.   Whether it’s your own life situation, a loved one or a stranger, you will be sensing how every experience, for better or worse is an opportunity for a person to fully recognise their infinite power of love and how it can change the dynamics of ‘their story and destiny’, because love guides, heals and dissolves, bringing self back into wholeness.   Some people’s actions, maybe even your own, may not seem to be in alignment of owning Sovereign power and freedom, but it is essential you honour all choice. No-one knows another’s story or destiny better than LOVE or GOD himself! It is therefore essential to remain focused on yourself, dare dive deep within and get to know yourself, practice compassion and live a life of joy, shining your Divine light and holding the vision for all Humanity to receive their highest potential and experience happily ever after on Earth.   Remember, not everyone is here to create and experience NewEarth this lifetime, we are many and there are different roles to play and destinations to reach. In this way we must not judge and doubt the action of self or another, as this only fuels separation and darkness and denies Human freewill and Divine destiny. It is for each to love and trust ourself and follow our own guidance, on a new adventure beyond everything known.     For the ones who are choosing to step out of the game and into their true Sovereign Magnificence, I came across this post I originally posted in 2016, copying it below for you to re/read and enjoy listening and relaxing to the inner journey… beyond everything known. Sometimes we just need a little reminder of how to move beyond!   It’s Time to Own Your Magnificent & All Powerful Self…   How many times a day do you catch yourself mumbling… ‘how bad I’m feeling’, ‘life is just not on my side’, ‘there seems to be no hope’, ‘all around me is turmoil, how can I live in this’ ‘I hate my job/relationship but it’s my security’, ‘I’m too old’, I’m too ill’… etc etc… AND you find yourself repeating this pattern day after day, oh… you might have an odd good day and are thankful, after all you’re getting older and weaker… as this is how life works, right!   This is indeed how we’ve all been led to believe life works. A world of limitation, struggle and lack as we believe we are victims of life, but how far from the truth this is! Ask yourself who gains from you playing the role of victim. The answer is all people in power, as they feed off the surplus energy and power others don’t claim for themselves. It’s all a game, a Human game of duality, for everyone to experience success and failure and realise what the game is all about, how life can never be won or lost by anyone and each person can choose instead, to own their Magnificent and All Powerful self and rise above their victimhood.   AND the game continues, even when you choose to step out of it…. testing your strength as to whether or not you remain true to your Magnificent and All Powerful self.   As we continue to see the conflict and lack of compromise within our political and religious groups around the world and even within our relationships at home and work… we can feel the emptiness… the struggle… and disease. Everyone searching for answers outside of themselves, but it leads nowhere and all we hear are the repeated questions.   How can I be happy… feel safe, loved, healthy and wealthy…. how can I sleep well… heal my pain and feel joy?   We continue to be distracted with the chaotic mind, addictive pleasures and complex practices and tools to become richer, better and wiser… even spiritual practices. This ongoing search keeps us distracted and away from discovering the most powerful tool right under our nose.   It’s been a long Human experience, we have struggled, suffered and lived the best we can, but we have also learned to love and be compassionate with the ones near us and come together in communities. If we have been curious and open, we have learned through the insights of ascended masters, angels and our loved ones of there being life after this one and if we have followed our inner guidance we have learned not to rely on others; unless we want to conform to their ideas, ways and give away our power.   So what do YOU do now?   Each one of us has to make a conscious choice to live a joyful and loving life and make time to care for ourself, to be and relax in our own presence. Sitting or lying in quiet contemplation, walking in nature or absorbed in some creative enjoyment. When we are joyful our mind becomes quiet and merges into a timeless space, beyond our physical reality and we experience a sense of peace, harmony and overwhelming passion. It is in this timeless and silent space; an energy of pure love that we can re-discover the presence of our Magnificent and All Powerful Divine self. A Divine presence that waits patiently for the busy Human to take their relationship onto a new level and journey as One into the unknown.    A Role of Gift Wrap as a Metaphor for Going Beyond…   The inner grey tube, represents your Human life… your society, mass consciousness, karma and ancestors. It is dull, limited and uninspiring. Your physical reality is full of predictions, prophecies, traditions, beliefs systems, patterns and routines that ensures you continue to swing from the extremes of success and failure. You have adapted to living with limited thoughts, limited imagination and limited ideas.   Your life and physical reality has become your comfort zone, with all its limited probabilities and possibilities, keeping you in the illusion that ‘this is it!’ You don’t consider that there might be a beautiful world, a beautiful gift outside of your perception, your dual reality and everything you know.   You remain fixated in your physical reality because of your collective linear time and space, which up until now has allowed you to experience your 3D consciousness, duality and belief systems. However, everything is changing and with the help of extreme light frequencies that are bombarding Earth and Humankind now, disturbing your magnetics and naturally awakening your consciousness… you are realising there is something more.   If you relax and focus on yourself, you can resonate with something within that encourages you to go beyond, to release all your comforts in the physical reality. To release the tight grip it has on your life and allow your self to go out and explore what is beyond everything you could ever imagine… the magic of the unimaginable unknown.   It has been a tough challenge for us all living in the physical reality that has been very dense. We have all been tightly woven into a fearful, limited and controlled society. We even FEAR the unknown… having been told its EVIL. The incoming light frequencies are naturally clearing the density on Earth and within YOU and ME and giving us all an opportunity to journey beyond what we know.   It’s not about remaining inside or outside our physical reality indefinitely… it’s about allowing our self to be free to choose in each moment where we want to be, what we want to do and how we want to live our life. Afterall we are Multi dimensional beings of love and light who can have fun exploring everything. It’s about allowing our physical reality, to dissolve for a while so that we can have an extraordinary experience.   I’d like to guide you on an inner journey, for you to experience going beyond… beyond the mind, beyond physical reality and all that is known. Allow yourself to listen to my words, listen to the music, listen to the silence and explore the depths of All of yourself. Remember there is no method, no way to experience it, there is only the way you experience everything.   Many thanks to Adamus from the Crimson Circle that first used a role of Gift Wrap as a tool about expanding beyond that I remember well… I hope it helps you too.   To listen to my Inner Journey Beyond please go to my website to play the podcast. Thankyou.     ©Barbara Franken… Creative Visionary & Master CreatorInspiring New Energy Consciousness & Multi-Dimensional Living         A True Magical Children’s Story about Love and Life. To inspire our children to connect deeply with themselves and the natural world around them and remember the truth of their being ‘Sparkles of Love’, here to bring love and harmony into the world, quite simply by being them self and enjoying their life in each moment. Click here to read more information & link to purchase.     A paperback and Digital Book is available from all Major online stores… Amazon and Apple.  I share my own magical journey, exploring Who I AM with the help of nine Elemental Beings and expand from a world of fear, struggle and limitation into a New Energy Consciousness of love, grace and freedom. It is in this loving space that I discover my Divine and ALL LOVING self and allow myself to integrate together as one Body Consciousness… a DivineHumanBeing… and Magnificent Master Creator who expresses and creates heart and soul passion on the physical plane and beyond.     Join my MasterCreator Class and emerge yourself in the celebration of life through dance, song, art, relaxed inner journeys and beyond everything known… preparing yourself for your NEW role on New Earth.   There is no time like the present moment to Sign Up and give YOURSELF this magnificent gift… More Info: MasterCreator Class     All the money raised from my books and classes go to my non-profit association The Magnificent Consciousness that holds free local Creative Art projects in Benalmadena, Spain.  

After the hospitalSomething that comes up again and again is what happens after you leave the hospital! Spain is quite different to the UK in the details. Hospitals don’t have crutchesYou buy them from the pharmacy (approx. 15€). Make sure that someone fits them properly and teaches you how to walk (so you don’t get back ache later). It takes about 20 minutes so you can easily give us a call and Ioanna or I can do it.The more you use them – the less you need us! CastsHeavy, hard to wash, can’t swim or drive or . . . . anything really. So if you’re going to need a support or cast for summer it’s worth getting one of these clever ones made so you can take them on and off and swim in them @Fiixit.es StitchesWounds, bandages and stitches all need to be cleaned and looked after. Check when and where you’re getting this done. Some Doctors can do home visits. List of medicationMake sure you know what you’re taking and when – these are big drugs so don’t get them wrong! Compression socksBlack or white, under or over the knee, these help with blood flow and reduce swelling for any operations. Not sexy but will get you back to sexy a LOT faster!  Aftercare is different here to how I was trained, the trick is to ask the right questions and get some support quickly. Just holler if you need us!

Hormone Balance is the secret to a happy menopause journey. There are many ways to take care of ourselves but one that many women overlook is “our mind”  It is vital that we learn to relax and put the stress and worry of the day behind us. This may not be easy when some women lead very busy lives, but with practise and time, this can become an integral part of our lives.   Why relaxation of the mind is so important Relaxing your mind is vital, especially during the times we are living in at the moment. A busy work schedule means that you are prone to cutting off your emotional responses and your enjoyment of the simple things in life. You then begin to push your physical and mental health to the limit. Read more about this article…..   10 Minute Meditation Guide for beginners   For further details about natural hormone balance please feel free to contact me www.mividanatura.com hello@mividanatura.com      

Meet Barbara Franken, a believer in our own unique magnificence, author and creator of The Magnificent Consciousness providing free Creative Art Projects for local children in Benalmadena   Why Spain Barbara – how did you end up living here? To live on the tranquil Mediterranean coastline, feeling the warmth of the sunshine, indulging in local fresh organic food and being surrounded by friendly people and awesome Spanish music was our dream come true. We wanted nothing more than to settle down for our retirement and be able to relax, indulge in everything and nothing and journey deeper within ourselves. Discovering the infinite depths of potential that lie within the Human, waiting patiently to take us beyond everything known or imaginable!   Where are you living? After travelling through Southern Spain playing golf, from Costa de la Luz on the Portuguese border to Costa Calida just below Alicante we decided to settle in Benalmadena on the Costa Del Sol. It is a big Spanish coastal town with Spanish charm and character. You can get lost in its grandness and yet feel its embrace… as it calls you home! We especially love that many nationalities live, work and play here all together and as we love to travel, having family in many parts of the world… Malaga airport is only a 10 minute drive away.   What was the biggest challenge for your move? It’s always hard leaving family and friends behind, but to be true to yourself it’s essential you follow your heart and trust yourself to meet new beautiful friends… that become family… AND that’s exactly what CostaWomen, both the social and business networking opportunities have given me here in Spain.   How do you spend your days? I wake up feeling excited to experience each new day, wondering how I will be inspired to fully embody compassion, joy and peace… no matter what comes along to challenge me, and share a new glimpse of magnificence and harmony into the world. Life is always a beautiful reflection of oneself and serves the Human depending how deeply each is connected to our most natural and magnificent self and the world around us. Since my early retirement, writing and painting has become my true passion. It is an outlet where inspiration flows and I can easily share my experience ‘waking up and ascending’ the limitation of our perceived world of duality. I founded my charity, The Magnificent Consciousness in 2015 as a way to funnel money raised from my own true awakening story… Your Magnificent Self… A Journey to Freedom and my MasterCreator Class, a practical guide and journey to freedom; for the ones who are ready to leave the old paradigm and birth themselves anew! AND be able to hold FREE Creative Art Projects for local children in Benalmadena. During our Creative Art Projects in 2017/18 we painted 80 paintings, sharing the children’s expression and vision of ‘Our Magnificent World’ and how the embodiment of love and happiness; being Your Magnificent Self, creates harmony in the world. We shared our message to the public in an Art Exhibition and Royal Stage Performance, which I have used as the background of my children’s e-book, that I was inspired to birth during this pandemic. IAM a Sparkle of Love is a true and magical children’s story about love and life. To inspire our children (+10) to connect deeply with themselves and the natural world around them and remember the truth of their being ‘Sparkles of Love’, here to bring love and harmony into the world, quite simply by being them self and enjoying their life in each moment. It is wonderful to imagine many grandparents and parents all around the world reading this book with their loved ones, inspiring each other to be more aware of the magic and harmony we all have the power to create.   Something you have recently achieved? The more quiet my life has become, the deeper I’ve delved within and have been able to birth new stories to tell the world. Now that my children’s story e-book has been published, I intend to focus more on filling in the details of an outline for a magical novel that is swirling around in my head!   You have organised a dinner – who want at the table? George Elliot is sitting at my dinner table, Mary married into my family back in the 1800’s… she has so many adventures to tell, both hardships and excitements that made her life a sensation… and will make my future novel a grand success!   What is your secret weapon or accomplishment? Knowing life is all about experience; for better or worse, and nothing can change how sovereign, free and magnificent you were born to be!   Favourite Quote? ‘Be the change that you wish to see in the world’ quoted by Mahatma Gandhi first inspired me to look within.   Favourite childhood book and why? Cicely Mary Barker’s series of the Flower Fairies… the beautiful drawings and words resonated with my innate sense of magic and wonder of the world.   One thing you are planning? Going to visit my mum for a long holiday in England.   Something you would tell your younger self? You are worthy, great and perfect just the way you are!   Where can we find out more about our charity project? My website   Thank you Barbara!

Stay in your lane – it’s where the real action is. It’s where the real thinking is and where the real intentions are. Straying out of your lane into another ensures the risk of colliding with those who have their eyes fixed on their own road ahead. It’s a lot less enjoyable journey. Staying in your lane is where you are in charge of your speed, your direction, your signals and your overall journey. It’s what you can control. There is plenty in your lane to focus on. It’s easy to get very caught up in other people’s lanes. We peer over the white line and comment on how they are driving their life. We make up stories about how they are driving with the intent to put us off and run us off the road! Even if we wanted to get into their lane and show them how to drive, we can’t.  There is no room for two! But enough of the driving metaphors. Staying in your lane is a phrase that just says ‘mind your own business’ a defensive rebuke handed to us when we have overstepped the mark into another lane that isn’t ours. But minding our own business is not only staying out of someone else’s lane, it’s focussing on our world and controlling what we can and not trying to control what we can’t. It’s about our circle of influence. Our circle of influence. Knowing what we can control by living within our circle of influence brings a feeling of relief. When we pull back and drop thoughts about controlling others, giving unwanted advice, opinions, judgements, all the should haves and all the drama, we feel so much lighter. The reward for staying in our circle of influence is clarity. Clarity about what we can do and what we can influence. We can see the clear road ahead and know that we only have our own thoughts, feelings and actions to take care of. This is our purpose. Managing ourselves. Yes, we can be entrusted to manage others, but we can never control what they think unless we have invested in some serious car (sorry!) brainwashing. We can guide and request of others. We can state assertively what we want in the understanding that others have the same permission. They too have their own circle of influence. We can meet people where they are, at the edge of their circle and we at ours. It’s where the win-wins happen. Traffic reporting We can choose to report on the traffic in the other lanes if we want to: he said, she said, they did, or I can’t believe they did etc etc. A constant stream of commentary about how others are managing their traffic in their lanes! Traffic reporting is good when it is alerting others to real dangers and circumstances, not imagined ones. A wonderful quote that I came across recently was that giving advice was akin to our ego masquerading as God! We are not that but there is something in us that cant help giving advice, usually where it is not wanted. At the heart of it, when we are focused on others and what they are up to in their lane, we are not focusing on ourselves. I don’t know about you, but I have plenty of my own stuff to work on. On some days, my work is just getting back in my lane and concentrating on the road ahead.  When I have found myself straying across the white lines it usually doesn’t end well. What about you? If you need help mastering how to stay in your own lane then do get in touch. I help people to love the lane they are in!